tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post6996562094043707157..comments2013-01-21T13:22:14.054-08:00Comments on ThisFictitous: A few thoughts on motherhoodFictitioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16906021306004358600noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-53564641042874550162012-10-12T01:45:27.010-07:002012-10-12T01:45:27.010-07:00For the record I didn't roll my eyes...For the record I didn't roll my eyes...Sean Obornnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-33679758214927962672012-10-07T02:12:03.553-07:002012-10-07T02:12:03.553-07:00Thank you!!! Ha, I sometimes forget that I live in...Thank you!!! Ha, I sometimes forget that I live in "paradise" ;) but really. I agree with what you said about missing out on things for you because you're focused on the kids but we need to give them our best, I sometimes forget and my kids see the mess that mommy really is on occasion. But it's all in perspective, maybe the time we devote to our kids is really time for ourselves to learn and grow as well... hmmm, next blog post?Ashley.Obornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07035633343624731857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-11926671100098778232012-10-07T02:02:01.180-07:002012-10-07T02:02:01.180-07:00Thanks Elisha! And I'm probably not the best a...Thanks Elisha! And I'm probably not the best at parenting advice but I'm glad you enjoyed my rant! Also, your little girl is too adorable! Ashley.Obornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07035633343624731857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-16304947090743855882012-10-07T02:00:45.699-07:002012-10-07T02:00:45.699-07:00Yes Cass! I totally agree! And I love your photogr...Yes Cass! I totally agree! And I love your photography by the way! Also, in a strictly platonic mom way, I have this fantasy that when I move back to the Mainland we go on much needed girl-retreats to a spa in Arizona (or fly to Paris and visit the Louvre) at least twice a year. Let me know what you think ;)Ashley.Obornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07035633343624731857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-35741999516272028362012-10-07T01:57:45.380-07:002012-10-07T01:57:45.380-07:00Ashleigh you are awesome (thanks for taking the ti...Ashleigh you are awesome (thanks for taking the time to comment!) and what you said about spreading yourself too thin being worse than missed opportunities is a seriously golden piece of advice! I'm going to put that on Pinterest ;)Ashley.Obornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07035633343624731857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-572400912230230102012-10-06T07:33:26.574-07:002012-10-06T07:33:26.574-07:00like the others who commented above, I too am righ... like the others who commented above, I too am right there with you. motherhood is crazy...I think there is way too much expected out if women these days...think of our parents generation where everyone had four or more kids and although it was probably equally as hard to raise the kids there was not the pressure of the world that we have, like having an a degree, a career, to look flawless, etc...all while having the responsibility of the munchkins. Don't be so hard on yourself ( its hard not to) but you have accomplished so much while being a GREAT mom. You got your degree, you're living in paradise, many great things to be proud of yourself. Its hard not to compare yourself to others, there will always be people out there that seem like they have it all together, but you never know the challenges they have under the surface. <br />Hopefully I've made a bit if sense... at times I feel like I'm missing out on things for me because of the kids, but I have to remind myself that its their time right now and I need to give them the best of me and there will be time for me again one day. Keep your chin up, you're wonderful in all that you do. The Comptonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00339548419015575588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-17560046058761350142012-10-05T22:22:48.863-07:002012-10-05T22:22:48.863-07:00Yes, yes, yes! I am on the same page with ya! Than...Yes, yes, yes! I am on the same page with ya! Thank you for putting it this way. Many people, including myself, need to read this to be reminded that we're not alone in having these same thoughts and feelings (and I only have one baby so far, and she was planned, and I still feel overwhelmed many times... so what's my problem? lol hah I need to be taking parenting lessons from you!!). I think we all just have to try our best in being our best SELF so we can be good mommies and wives too. Thanks love!Elisha Gonzalezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09695236667184985708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-26165421499273807612012-10-05T22:03:35.739-07:002012-10-05T22:03:35.739-07:00haha did you read my last blog post? its quite sim...haha did you read my last blog post? its quite similar :) And I totally feel you. Photography is my outlet right now but it switches every now and then. I feel like if I dont have something for me, "me" will just shrivel up and dissipate into outer space. and exist no longer. haha. Here's to keeping ourselves and our sanity in tact!Jared and Cassiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11966638418296697142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1175441658952286938.post-89000511603624265362012-10-05T19:07:01.363-07:002012-10-05T19:07:01.363-07:00OMG HOLLA! I totally hear you sister. It's CRA...OMG HOLLA! I totally hear you sister. It's CRAZY how people say women can multitask, but really we just HAVE to multitask or else life will be chaos. And it probably still is. Sometimes I feel the same way, especially about tapping into a part of myself that I didn't know in college. And I also know what you mean about NEEDING to focus on one thing at a time. That's why I quit my internship this fall, because I needed to be where my feet are. I can't devote too much time to too many things, because to me, spreading myself too thin is WAY worse than "missing opportunities." I think you're a GREAT mom, and I know how crazy it can be sometimes, but KEEP YOUR HEAD UP because we all have those days. Weeks. Months. Lives? But we do what we do, and we keep going because we love those babies. And if you want to stop at two, that's ok. In the normal world, that's a pretty normal number :) I've been thinking about that myself, actually! Haha! Ashleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07243426568267460084noreply@blogger.com